I asked my boyfriend in Canada once, how he deals with polar bears because I was curious about what to do and he was like, just be calm, let them know you’re there, and give them space and they’ll usually just go away.
I may be wrong, but I think part of this is due to the differences in the behavior of different bear species. Like these appear to be black bears. Excepting the rare cases of human-aggressive black bears, most black bears are generally timid. They may bluff charge if they have cubs or found a particularly nice source of food and don’t wanna leave, but people can usually tell em off pretty easily like above. In general Grizzly territory, being loud (but calm) is better cuz the bears can hear you coming and will usually avoid you before there’s even an encounter, and that way they won’t get suddenly startled and feel threatened. Tho I personally wouldn’t open the door to shout at a grizzly in close proximity in the yard.
So, tldr, I’m trying to come up with around $500 to cover costs to move to another US state. I’m also using this help to allow me to have the time to sort through and sell as much of my stuff as I can.
I currently live with emotionally & financially abusive family. (There were more sorts of abuse to it than that but that was almost 15 years ago and the psychological impact is all that’s relevant now.)
I am moving in with someone rather dear to me who has cancer, so we can help each other. So helping me helps me get out, AND helps someone else where I’m going too.
Meanwhile my timetable has shortened. I need to be traveling by Sept 27th, 2018 at latest – possibly the 25th if I can help it.
My loved one who has cancer is sinking mental health wise. I am very worried they may do something if left alone, even though this case is still very treatable, only at stage II.
This is no longer about my abusive situation. This is no longer about me, imho. Reblog to please help me save a life.
$200 left to go, and only two weeks left before the move. It’s the 27th for sure now. This is getting down to the wire, with 75% of the time gone but 60% of the way to the goal. Trying to frantically sell what I can of my stuff to make the difference but a lot of that keeps falling through and just not happening.
-.-
Starting to really worry about this trip again. Not nearly enough hours to pack AND put in my usual work hours.
Im not sure, but i feel like i can answer this question.
People with female brains focus more on feelings and emotion, Where as males focus less on feelings and more on what is in front of them. If you get a trans male, with a cis male in the same room, they will most likely think the same; and same for a trans woman and a cis woman.
I feel like male brains focus more on facts and statistics while female brains focus more on emotions and feelings. (Not saying all, but on average). Now im no psychologist, so i cant really answer that directly. But i feel like it has something to do with how male and female brains act.
(This also explains why most non-binary people are female assigned at birth, because they focus more on feelings)
But dont take my post as fact, this is just what i think the answer is.
You know… even when your completely run-of-the-mill 19th century sexism is trans-inclusive, it’s still bad.
… like people do Realize that male and female brains have no discernible differences other than hormones right? People are socialized to prioritize emotional intelligence more or less based on gender assignment but it has nothing to do with how brains actually function, and has no bearing on whether someone is “more suited” or not to certain fields of study.
My dad told me recently that the most important public health workers are garbage collectors and janitors. So much of our health relies on a clean environment. These people do some of the most important work in society. If we learned in dirty public environments full of garbage, we’d all be sick. I cannot thank these people enough for the valuable work that they do.
Shout out to all garbage collectors, janitors and housekeepers!
If you’re ever in a city when they go on strike, your appreciation grows!
This is the kind of shit people did back in the Depression. When mortgage holds would try to sell a farm, everyone in the community showed up and strong armed any serious bidders away. They had the ‘penny auction’ tactic, where farmers would bid absurdly small amounts on farm equipment and land (while glaring intensely) until the auctioneer realized they needed to take what they were getting, or get their legs broken. This kind of stuff saved so many farms, they’d buy off 500+ dollar mortgages (which were huge amounts back then) for less than 100 dollars and give it back to the farm owners.
The lesson to take away is that only direct action and community organizing can help in such dire times.
writer: this is one of my male characters! he cares about his guy friends and loves them deeply.
tumblr: oh! so he’s gay!
writer: uh…no, he’s attracted to women.
tumblr: ….so he’s bi!
writer: uhh…no…….he loves his guy friends but he’s not romantically/sexually attracted to them.
tumblr: ….so you’re homophobic.
writer:
Healthy male friendships are almost as rare in mainstream fiction as gay male relationships, and maybe more rare in fanfiction. Let men be wonderful friends without pushing a romantic relationship, just like men and women should be able to be wonderful friends without the pressure of a romantic relationship.
*AGGRESSIVELY SLAMS REBLOG UNTIL I DIE*
This is literally the reason men are so terrified of being open about loving each other platonically, because they don’t want people to assume they’re gay just because they can be supportive of their fucking friends
I literally got anon hate about my response to this post, and I just want to say that I’m sorry…
for not reblogging it sooner.
Psyche bitch, this is a good post.
1) I feel like guys shouldn’t feel scared about being seen as gay (unless a. they’re actually gay but aren’t out yet b. live in a really homophobic area), cuz I feel it sorta contributes to homophobia. Like I get reasons why you wouldn’t wanna be seen as gay in our homophobic culture, especially if/when it has dangerous reprecussions. But idk it feels sad and cringe that people wanna distance themselves from gay people so much that they would rather not be close with friends than be seen as gay.
2) that being said the fetishization of gay men is gross. And it’s gross that people internalize gender roles so much that men are “penalized” (again, being called gay or even effeminate shouldn’t be an insult, but I digress) whenever they step a toe out of society’s tiny little “real men” box. Yet, I also understand that a lot of fic writers who write characters as gay are gay/bi/etc themselves and are making their own representation cuz Lord knows we don’t get much anywhere else.
3) it’s ironic to me that it’s literally the opposite for women. Straight women often are super affectionate and even flirty(?) with other friends who are women. This is such an issue, that bi and gay women/women aligned ppl seem to almost universally have that entire period of a relationship like “well she kissed me so maybe she’s INTO me? Nah, she’s probly straight, I’m just a big dumb”. Not to mention, confirmed lesbian couples are labeled “just gal pals”, even when it’d be blatantly obvious if they were a guy and a woman.
So, you’re okay with people telling you that you have a different name?
“Well, you LOOK like you’re more of a ______.”
“But that’s not my name. I just told you my name.”
“Sure. But I’m telling you that I know better than you and I’m not giving you free agency to declare yourself apart from associations and expectations of me personally. What, you hate people named ______ or something?”
“No, I just want to be called by the correc–”
“______-phobe!”
You can want to be clear on your sexuality and not hate the people others assume you are.
People assume a lot that I’m gay. To a certain level, I don’t care. People assuming and telling me that I’m in the closet, or just hate gays, if I try to correct them, is the problem.
For the record, I’m bi. It’s not an “ew straights hate gays therefore they don’t want people to think they’re gay.”
I just hate people telling me what I am when I’ve just fucking told them, and then turn my desire for accuracy into a blame game.
Thats not what I was talking about at all tho? I never said that everyone who is mistaken for being gay and corrects others is homophobic? I was mostly responding to the comment about how straight men are “so terrified” of being called gay for showing love and compassion. I literally said “I don’t think guys should feel SCARED about being seen as gay…” not “I think guys should let other people assume they’re gay and accept being mislabeled”. People can be annoyed when others just assume their sexuality and prefer to not be seen as gay. Im talking about the fear, and feeling that your reputation will be ruined or whatever.
I’m also bi and I hate when people do that too. Like if we tell you how we identify, just accept it and don’t be a dick. That’s just not the aspect of this topic that I was talking about.
Disheveled Mess 