melanieh1:

mentalillnessmouse:

hi anon,

Getting a diagnosis, or having doctors, or anyone, bring something to your attention and point something else can be really difficult and overwhelming. It makes sense that you would feel so overwhelmed right now. 

The best thing you can do is to seek out professional help and support for this. It’s important to process these things and like they said, try to treat it now rather than later.

There are some great treatments for BPD or the traits of it. I would encourage you to look into a therapist who is specialized or knowledgable in BPD. DBT is one of the best therapies for BPD or the traits so i would definitely push you to look at DBT centers. If you are able to do a “full” DBT program, that would be ideal (group, individual, phone coaching). 

As far as the relationship stuff, it is so helpful to be aware of it, and address it (therapy would be a good place…its A HUGE part of DBT as well). When you feel yourself doing things that may be harmful try to stop it and think of what is healthy and what would be a healthy relationship for you. It takes a lot of work but it can be done.

Getting & talking to a therapist

• This post on picking a therapist has some great tips.
• This is a step by step on getting a therapist.
• Psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist or counsellor?
• 50 Signs of Good Therapy
• Having issues with therapy?  Here are 50 Warning Signs of Questionable Therapy
• 21 Tips for getting the most out of each therapy session
• 6 Ways to open up to your therapist
• What should happen in a session
• 5 Tips on how to talk about yourself in therapy

Borderline Personality Disorder

• This post lists  ten guidelines for families partners and friends of people with BPD.
• This is a toolbox with tips and hints for people with personality disorders.
• National Education Alliance Borderline Personality Disorder [NEABPD]
• NEABPD Recovery resources
• PsychCentral – BPD symptoms and general information
• WebMD – BPD overview
• BPD Central
• NAMI – BPD overview and resources
• BPD Demystified
• BPD Today
• About.com – BPD overview and resources

Healing From BPD (contains chatroom)

DailyStrength.org Personality Disorders Support Group

DBT resources

• DBT General Information/FAQS: General information on what DBT is and some answered questions about DBT
• The 4 Modules of DBT/master list of DBT Skills : this is a list of ALL the DBT skills and parts of DBT with general descriptions of what each one is.
• Mindfulness: states of mind: this sheet is about the 3 states of mind that play an important role in mindfulness
• Mindfulness: The “WHAT” skills: this sheet describes the what skills of mindfulness, which are the steps to mindfulness
• DBT Resources
• DBT Self-help
• PsychologyTools has great links and PDFs for practicing DBT skills

Hopefully these resources can help you get started.

Lina

Great resources!!