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danielle-mertina:

There’s an Alexa commercial where a new father is taking care of the baby and the wife left reminders thru Alexa and the commercial pisses me off because why does the wife need to leave reminders about basic stuff like where her teething ring is? Why doesn’t he know that?

I really hate the culture of men essentially “babysitting” their own children and then being praised for doing the bare minimum. I hate it even more now that I’m trying to have a child.

I have discussions about this all the time with my husband because this is so commonplace (women raise children and men “help”) that I want to be positive we don’t just automatically fall into those roles.

and it’s supposed to be all cute n endearing like there’s nothing remotely cute about a grown man struggling to take care of his own child bc he doesn’t know how to do basic shit

There’s also always the implication that this stuff came naturally to the mom and not that she didn’t have to put in the time and effort to learn how to take care of a baby. It’s a complete erasure of maternal labor.

… Really? REALLY? You assholes are the same people who bitch and moan and moan and bitch about how men should look after children too, and then when something pops up showing that happen, you act like it’s someone taking a shit in front of you.

Reading comprehension is a fundamental skill I wish everyone was taught. This whole response falls under the straw man fallacy.

No, I think you’re bitching over nothing.

People forget things. It happens. I think you’re making a fucking mountain of a nonexistan molehill.

When you have an infant, for their safety and well-being, you need to remember the fundamentals. It’s an issue when one parent (usually the father) needs to be reminded of these basics because they aren’t as involved in the parenting process. If they were accostomed to equally sharing the job of taking care of the child, the Alexa reminders would have been unecessary.

This is me restating the point since you couldn’t grasp it the 1st time. The sociological term for this is the “second shift.” Look it up.

those commercial are insulting to the men more that the women tbh im but im not bout to argue

But not really because men really do be like that

ok so whos the bigger idiot

the man

or the woman that marries him then has his kids now she has to raise everyone in the house by herself including him

Women have maternity leave. Most men do not. Aside from weekends, early mornings and after work, men aren’t able to be as involved in the day to day intricacies of caring for an infant as mother bbn on maternity leave or a stay at home mom.

I haven’t seen the ad, but it seems like they were catering to the current norm instead of the ideal one (which I think we are working towards. paternity leave was actually mentioned in a company bulletin I saw last week at my job).

It’s not unrealistic to assume that fathers can be a little more clueless when it comes to shit like what baby likes at 11am.

You may be in a more progressive country but in America paid maternity leave does not usually exceed 6 weeks and even that is generous and not always offered.

Sometimes, you can take 12 weeks without losing your job but that’s certainly not paid which makes it a hardship for most families to take advantage of.

Most mothers perform wage work. SAHM’s are a small minority in the US. So I think it’s fair to say that both men and women should be involved in the care of their infant because chances are both are working outside of the home.

I’m in America. I think my original point stands. 6 weeks alone with the baby during the day is still more time than most fathers get. That time allows you to get to know your baby in ways someone who is gone all day cant, and I think that norm is the type of audience the ad was shooting for. I can also confirm this from personal experience.

Things as small as her liking to be held in a different arm during different feedings or her liking to nap near a window that has a tree with birds chirping mid morning, but NOT liking it during the afternoon.

It’s a given that both parents are (should be) involved in the raising of their children, but realistically one is going to be more experienced at it for one reason or another.

I see your point but I do think a few weeks isn’t long enough for a mom to have a significant advantage over a dad in terms of knowledge. Unless she is caring for the baby 24/7 from the get go.

And even if there is an advantage the onus is on the father to put a special effort into learning what he needs to know to get by. He may not know or remember those fine details but he should know the basics about how to take care of his child without continuous reminders throughout the day.

Exactly. Babies require round the clock care, so even if the husband worked a normal schedule, and the mother stays home for 6 weeks, he doesnt do night feeding? He doesnt care for the baby when he gets home so the wife can take a nap? Its doesnt take weeks alone with a child to figure out how they like to be held. And even if the father couldnt figure it out on his own, the wife could have corrected him easily. A screaming child is pretty good motivation to get it right. The fact that the husband needs constant reminders for basic things means he has spent no time taking care of his own child, which is completely unacceptable even if the husband is the only one working.

As a part time child care provider, i can confirm, it doesn’t take that long to figure out. With my most recent family, it took not even 3 8-hour days to entirely figure out how their baby liked/didn’t like things. If there was an issue during the day that I couldn’t figure out or wasn’t sure if it was a regular thing, I’d make a note of it and ask later. One reminder was for a teething ring in the freezer. This baby is at least 4 months old. The issue with this commercial isn’t that the dad has questions or isn’t sure about every detail. It’s that he doesn’t know even the most basic aspects of caring for his own kid, and apparently needs constant reminders of what to do and where things are despite having this kid for several months. Like if you need someone else to make all of those types of reminders for you, you probly shouldnt be taking care of a baby alone, period, cuz you clearly have not made any effort to learn about childcare.